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Q: Are you gay?


If someone asks me that today, I don't think I could answer that easily. Honestly, I don't even like that question. I'm like, why do you have to ask? Why do you have to know? Well that's just in my mind. I don't actually say it. But you get my point, right? Why do people need to ask it anyway? Would their lives be different to know the answer? Would there be world peace if I would affirm their suspicion?

When I am with friends who are just like me, and we talk about our secret lives, I sometimes cringe when they say 'We are all gays here.' I'm like 'somebody might hear you' or 'oh shoot not that word again.' It's not that I don't like the word or I don't acknowledge the lifestyle I am living. It's just that 'yeah, we know who we are. no need to say it.'

I like the answer of a Tumblr user when an anon posted that question in his site. His answer was 'labels are for clothes.' BOOM! Pasok sa banga! We don't need labels. We know who we are. so why don't people (heteros and homos) just see us for we are. Sabi nga ng isang blogger, may iba't ibang kulay naman ang rainbow. Isang entity pero maraming components. Di ba pare-pareho lang na etits pagmamahal ang gusto natin?

So can I just say this, as if it's no big deal...
A: I'm a guy who's currently in a relationship with a guy. (said with a straight face)
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  1. viktor adrian stefanApril 10, 2012 at 3:50 AM

    antaray ng answer! I like it!

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  2. BwryanApril 10, 2012 at 4:01 AM

    yeah, sometimes i cringe as well when someone would say "the word" out loud. it's like: "okay, we know. need not be redundant."

    and there's no need to be label everything ☺

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  3. ShenanigansApril 10, 2012 at 5:14 AM

    MY POV:

    "why do you have to ask? Why do you have to know? Well that's just in my mind. I don't actually say it. But you get my point, right? Why do people need to ask it anyway? Would their lives be different to know the answer? Would there be world peace if I would affirm their suspicion?"

    -Again, as I always say and strongly believe, it is human nature to seek for the truth and find answers to feed their curiosity. it is satiable.

    "When I am with friends who are just like me, and we talk about our secret lives, I sometimes cringe when they say 'We are all gays here.'"

    - He's just proud and you're scared. but it's understandable in your situation to feel scared.

    " 'labels are for clothes.'"

    - Strongly agree. however, we really can't wipe this out to the society unless it is already accepted.

    So anung point ko?

    This is something beyond our control, what we can only do is HOW to respond to the situation... and how are we going to respond? wala! dedma. if someone asked you "are you gay?" tell them it doesn't matter.

    parang pinagulo ko lang lalo. haha!

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  4. Mac CallisterApril 10, 2012 at 5:44 AM

    Ako din dati ayaw na ayaw ko marinig yun word na gay,pero eventually, nun tinanggap ko sarili ko and, stop denying who am i, naging madali na para sakin tangapin yun word na:bakla ako.

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  5. Eternal Wanderer...April 10, 2012 at 8:42 AM

    ikaw na ang nanalo sa ms. u q&a portion.

    PAK!

    p.s. for some people, compartamentizalization is a way for them to deal with things. and other people, too.

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  6. MugenApril 10, 2012 at 8:57 AM

    That's a step closer towards acceptance. :) In time, you can acknowledge your preference without twitching your face. :)

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  7. Mr. GeoApril 10, 2012 at 7:37 PM

    Q: Are you gay?
    A: Are you?

    The thing in this world is that people really asks a lot of questions and i agree w Shenanigans, that is human nature. I agree with you as well that it doesn't matter. But always remember that we are living in a society that no matter how big the numbers of PLU (People Like Us) are, the standards of society go against the very idea of being homosexual. Labels doesn't matter but why do you let it affect you? If you truly believe that it doesn't matter, then go by it. Be numb about the whole thing. And yes, always prepare an answer to that question because that is one question that people will never get tired asking.

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  8. citybuoyApril 12, 2012 at 5:12 AM

    I used to mind this question too but then I stopped caring. Bad trip lang kasi. A straight guy can shout baklaaaaa!!! at the top of his lungs and anong isasagot mo? STRAIGHT!!! waley ang impact.

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  9. GuyronyApril 16, 2012 at 9:59 AM

    We are placed in different situations only we can adjust to.

    If it makes you uncofortable, then it definitely is a sign of non-acceptance, or, not completely grasping the idea.

    It is hard to admit one's sexuality with the presence of societal dogma.

    But you know who you are, in time, you will be able to fully accept what is truly you.

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  10. hard.ass.kisserJuly 30, 2012 at 12:34 PM

    I actually feel for you here.
    Parang mahirap lang kasi tanggapin na sabihing bakla ako.
    Dahil na rin siguro sa connotation na pag sinabing bakla eh ung mga parlorista or yung mga nakatakong, stiletto at mga nag co-crossdress.
    Siguro dahil na rin siguro sa ating society kung bakit tayo mismo ay nahihirapang tanggapin ang ating mga sarili.
    Sa atin kasi, may stigmang nakakabit ang label na gay or sa mas barubal pakinggan na bakla.
    But I agree.
    Labels are for cloths and not for people.
    Ang labo ko yata dun sa sinabi ko ah.
    Sorry confused pa rin kasi.
    Wahahaha....

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