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Ex-lovers, Friends No More



"Don't text me anymore.."I finally said to him. 

I therefore conclude that ex-lovers cannot be friends unless they were friends before they became lovers.

I guess it's hard to move on after a break up if you and your ex are still keeping in touch. There would be days where you can say that you have already moved on being busy with work and other aspects of your life. But the moment you receive a text message from him like simple hi's or "musta," it all comes back even though you don't want to, but it just does. Love doesn't disappear just like that. Love, if it was really love or if there was a sincere genuine care, it will surely linger.

Anyway, in my case, it did linger. And every time he sends me a text message, I still feel the same giddy feeling I had when we were still together. But along with that same giddiness is the same feeling of mistrust and disappointment I felt then. It's not just love that lingers, hurt from the relation also does. So I guess we could never really be friends after that.

Honestly I really wanted to be friends with him. It's just that whenever he texts there's always a subtle hint of wanting to reconcile. Yes, I miss him. But I don't miss him that much that I want us to get back together. I just wanted to be friends for friendship's sake. But I guess he thinks otherwise. He's still acting the same way like before. The same trait that made me break it off. It made me remember what an acquaintance told me, if you broke it off with someone, why would you get back together? There's already something that didn't work out between the two of you, it probably still be there when you get back together. Well, he's right there still that something that remained. Something off.

So I guess that's that.

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  1. aw... that's why it's always good to be friends first because after the love, passion and lust have burned out it will be friendship that will still make you stick together ☺

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    1. yep, and it should be genuinely for friendship first without any ulterior motives.

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  2. Unless you're the type who loves getting hung up on things, being friends with your ex might work for you.

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    1. you have a point too. for those who have a problem letting go..

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  3. But some says that love is sweeter the second time around and in a film that a saw the leading lady give his ex a second chance...does it really happen in real life?...i guess not...hehe..but if its really meant for you then destiny willl bring u together..points of view

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    1. maybe it does happen. maybe they were acquaintances or friends first before they became lovers.

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  4. Perhaps people need sometime apart, before they can begin to be friends again. I think exes can be your best friends, if both have made peach with the past. Just a thought.

    Kane

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  5. last part sounds oddly familiar...

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